I can easily think of a bazillion reasons to elope instead of having a crazy big wedding. Elopements have such a special place in my heart, as well as the couples who choose an intimate wedding. There’s no real right or wrong way to get married, but if you’re considering eloping – this is the blog for you!
Colorado is one of the top destination wedding locations in all of the continental United States and it comes as no surprise that many couples choose to elope here. Over my years as one of the top elopement photographers in Colorado, I have heard so many different reasons why people choose to elope here that I thought it might be good to share the best reasons to elope that I have come across.
You ready? Here we go!
Want to hike on your elopement day? You can. Want to 4×4 on your elopement day? You can. Do you two love to ski? You can do that on your elopement day. Your wedding doesn’t have to be cookie-cutter, it doesn’t have to be anything you don’t want it to be. Eloping gives you the best opportunity to create a day that feels just like you two, because it is just you two!
I have had so many brides and grooms laugh about how nice it was just to recite their vows privately, instead of in front of all their family and friends. Keeping your vows private and not having to say them in front of a crowd can make the experience of getting married very intimate.
Don’t want to deal with well-intentioned-but-super-dramatic family members? Eloping might just be the best thing you can do to avoid family drama. There won’t be anyone there to show up in white to your wedding. You don’t have to worry about Uncle so-and-so causing a scene. You don’t have to worry about who to invite or not to invite. Eloping cuts out the family drama on what is supposed to be one the best days of your life.
When it comes down to it, the purpose of a wedding day is to do just that: get married. Traditional weddings can take the intentionality out of it, especially when you’re forced to consider all the ins and outs of the ceremony, the reception, and everything else that comes with wedding planning. Top that off with your in-laws expectations and so much intentionality goes out the door. Eloping is a very intentional way of getting married, putting the entire focus on the two of you.
If you know anything about me, you know how much I value experience over things. If you invest in what is important to you by creating an experience, I can promise you that eloping is the best thing you can do for yourselves. There’s really nothing like going on an incredible hike and exchanging your vows at the top of a 14,000 foot mountain, surrounded by nothing but the most amazing views, forests of trees and miles of lakes and streams.
The average cost of a wedding in the United States is $31,200. Take the wedding out of the equation and ask yourself: what would you do with an extra $31,200? Put it toward a home? Pay off your student loans? Go on an epic yearlong road trip with your new spouse? The possibilities are endless when it comes to what you can do with the money you could spend for a party.
If I can recommend anything, it’s this: don’t spend money on things that don’t matter (like wedding favors) and splurge on what is most important (going to a location that makes you feel alive and a photographer to capture the story of the day).
In addition to saving money, there’s way less planning involved when you elope. The only decisions you have to make when it comes to eloping is essentially when and where; okay, and maybe what to wear, too. But you don’t have to choose a perfect venue, you don’t have to choose bridesmaids dresses that they’ll never wear again or force your best friends to rent suits. You won’t be forced to make a singles table, you won’t have to worry about who sits where. You don’t even have to do all the time-intensive tastings and site visits and meetings with all the vendors.
So, take all those seven reasons above and add them together. What do you get? Way less stress and anxiety! Stress and anxiety leading up to the big day, stress and anxiety the day of your wedding, and stress and anxiety after your wedding. Eloping solves these issues, without a doubt.
I hear so many stories from couples who had a more traditional wedding but regretted it because they knew in their gut from the beginning that they wanted to elope. Ultimately, this is the very top reason to elope: if it feels like it’s the right decision for the two of you, then it likely is. You’ll never go wrong following your gut!